4 things to keep in mind when you do it the first time.
You met him at a friend’s birthday party and sparks flew instantly. He can’t take his eyes off of you and a proposal for meeting over a cup of coffee next day is just too hard to resist. After a few months of long conversations, giggles, getting to know each other holding hands and a few stolen kisses every now and then, the real question arises.
You’ve tried to ignore it, but now it seems impossible to get away with it. And besides admit it! You like when he touches you. Secretly in your heart you want to answer his plea positively. But what he sometimes fails to understand is that you’re torn between your head and heart.
Sometimes you find yourself wrestling with the daunting thought “ Is he just interested in sex?” but soon his 200 WhatsApp pings in a day and his keen interest in sharing his chicken recipe with you, banishes that thought. Meanwhile your guy is being patient, but mentions every now and then that you don’t trust him and there is a lack of commitment from your side. So finally you decide to let the feeling completely engulf you. You know there is nothing wrong in it but before you step out of your cocoon there are few things you need to take care of.
“So finally you decide to let the feeling completely engulf you …”
1. Prepare yourself mentally
Once you’ve decided to get physical with your guy for the first time make sure you’re completely sure about it. It’s important not to have any second thoughts. It’s not something you can take back. Make sure that you don’t have to regret this decision at any point of time in near future.
2. Keep precautions in hand
Getting intimate is a rush of emotions but it’s important to use your mind and not let yourself get carried away. This once in a lifetime night should be planned cautiously. Keep condoms and other birth control measures in handy.
3. Don’t do it because everybody else is
It’s a question most people want to avoid but ask yourself, are you doing this because you love your guy a lot and wants to take your relationship to the next level or just because all your friends are happily having sex with their partners and you’re the only virgin left in your group?
4. Are you sure he is the right guy
It probably sounds a little old fashioned but the memory of your first time with your special guy is something that is going to stick with you for a longer time than you think. Sex is not merely a tool of pleasure it’s a display of the unconditional love that you possess for your partner. Only if that person feels the same for you too will it be a memory worth cherishing.